I just need to rant about this but I am sick of overly strict/protective parents when there is no purpose behind it. See, my boyfriend and I live an hour away and he use to drive to my house 3-4 times a week but now his car broke down for good and hes trying to save up for a car so until then we have to meet halfway and halfway there is a skating park where we want to hang out. Its a 30 minute drive for both of us, and tomorrow is his only day off from work till Saturday and I haven't seen him since Sunday and by the time I see him again it will have been a week. So I nicely ask my mom to take me to see him I offered to pay her for the gas and she tells me no she hates driving that distance and the only reason I am seeing him Saturday is because my brother wants to meet him. Plus its not as if she'd be there bored...there is many stores there she likes and thats where my grandfather grew up and where most of the family is buried and she always is saying she don't have time to fix up their graves...she could do that. I honestly feel its pure laziness...

So I said...I want to learn to drive so I can drive myself and she tells me....You're to young to be driving half the car accidents are due to teenagers and I feel that all teenagers shouldn't be driving and besides that fact, you could get robbed or hijacked blah blah blah. I seriously felt like I back at 12 again asking to see a PG-13 movie. I mean what is so hard about letting her at least teach me?!? I will be 18 in 4 months (Yes, the countdown begins) and all she's doing is putting me behind and holding me back. Don't she realize that with every little last few months she has left to control me she is pushing me away? Don't she realize that in 4 months I will be free to do as I please and she won't be able to stop me so she might as well slowly learn to let me do stuff? I mean her final words on the subject to me were...when you move out and when you're on your own then you can learn to drive but as long as you live under my house you follow my rules which state you are to young to drive, only when you are on your own will you be old enough.

I've tried talking to her about that and no matter which way I approach it she gets nasty with me. She refuses to listen and refuses to understand, she was in the army she was a drill Sargent so you guys can only imagine the kind of yelling she gives. Shes so stubborn nothing works, I cant even pull off the stunts most teens do like bribing or deals. Its always her way or highway. She's scary at times she becomes Irate when I bring up problems because she always believes shes right and nobody else is unless they agree with her.

So I told my boyfriend, When I am 18 I will not miss the words "You're to young to do this" and he goes...that isn't true...you will hear that until you're 21. Apparently you cannot rent a car from a rent-a-car place until you are 21 years of age or older. And he wants to be a police officer and they wont let anyone under 21 get into the police academy. But needless to say, I am anticipating the next four months, I will be getting job here in January and I will save up so I can move out and I know it will be hard but I am sick of over-protective and strict parents...they raised me the way they did now they just have to let go and have faith I will go as they guided but yet if they keep holding on not trusting that's when I will bare off the path they showed me.

So yeah...just had to rant. Get it off my chest before bottled it in and blew up on them. Even my brother tried to teach me to drive his truck. He just got yelled at and I got grounded for trying. I think its good to be strict with your kids but its all in moderation....I think this is just over-protective to the point that its unhealthy.

That sucks, my Mom isn't that protective, she let's my brothers and sisters go to their friend's house everyday.

Eduardo wrote:

That sucks, my Mom isn't that protective, she let's my brothers and sisters go to their friend's house everyday.

O.o!!! Wow...haha when I was a kid my mom never let me go to other's houses she said she don't know what kind of lifestyle they have and she didn't want me going unless she knew the religion, what rules/morals are of the parents and even then she wouldn't. I just had a talk with her today about letting me go skating tomorrow and she said nope. I suggested learn to drive, she said no so I told her to enjoy her last 4 months with me because in march when I turn 18, I am free im leaving! I told her I want to experience freedom and I know it will be tough but I will make it through. She was speechless the entire ride home.

Its tough, it really is. I've never really had a problem with my parents authority, I never really ask for much

I do think that maybe your parents should be teaching you to drive and all, afterall at 17.5 you can get your license. The thing is, your mom is right about being worried about you driving. I'm not sure about teenagers causing half of car accidents (I think its more.lol.) but 16-21 year olds are at the highest chance of getting in an accident.

If your mom is protective of you its because she cares. She couldn't live with herself if something happened to you.....

I would be worried if your mom let you do everything you wanted and didn't really care where you were, believe me if that was your case you wouldn't be happy in the least...